For the first time in a long time, I actually dressed up and let my true self show:
And people treated me amazingly! I got so many hugs. Seriously, today could not have gone better! <3
When trans women have every aspect of their presentation examined and labeled either hyperfeminine and therefore fake or not feminine enough and therefore male, while the same traits would be seen as normal in cis women, that’s transmisogyny.
When trans women are told that they are politically ignorant when they object to trans men “reclaiming” a derogatory term that has been used specifically against trans women and not against trans men, that’s transmisogyny.
When trans women are told that they need to stop being assertive and strong because it is a sign of male privilege - invariably by “feminists” who, of course, encourage cis women to be assertive and strong - that’s transmisogyny.
When queer women’s spaces have trans women inclusive policies, yet any trans women who attend are generally ignored or not included in discussions, that’s transmisogyny.
There’s so much more at the link, and I only included a few here.
I really hope this isn’t too big of a file. Alas, here is the timeline of my transition. I was at first hesitant to post this online..but I know these are what gave me the courage and hope to dive in head first. I hope to give you all inspiration, and to show you that it *IS* possible to be who you feel you are. NO matter what.
Jason Stenson and Hakim Nelson, May 26, 2009
New York City
This is actually a story of a wedding that didn’t happen, but it’s a great story so I am posting it anyway. The couple duped city workers into granting them a marriage license by misrepresenting Nelson as a woman. Despite identifying as transgender, Nelson remains male in the eyes of the law, which makes marriage illegal for this couple in New York. The license was revoked. Details here and here.
This is a tad old…
2005: The first time I dared to let myself show in public.
(almost) Completely borrowed outfit, black heeled boots, black stockings, pink “All Dolled Up” mini skirt, pink bra, red button up shirt of mine, George top, lace tie from schoolgirl halloween outfit, blonde wig, light makeup.