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If you are transgender/gender variant or an ally (but especially transgender or gender variant in any way), please fill out this survey for me!

dominic-scaia:

Trans friends & allies, would you please do me a big favor and fill out both parts of this survey? (I had to break it into 2 parts because survey monkey has a limit of 10 questions per survey)
It’s for a business I am trying to start.
Thanks so much!!

Transgender online shopping survey part 1
http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/XVMCTT6

Transgender online shopping survey part 2
http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/XVN6VD9

I tried to make sure the language was inclusive and didn’t leave out any identities.. so my apologies if I offended anyone. I really did try. I’m an oldskool trans person.. I’ve come a long way, and have adjusted many of the terms I use, but there’s still a bit I need to
learn apparently. So I’m sorry about that!

thambos:

The Thing Trailer

A woman, a transgendered man, and their cat travel towards a mysterious roadside attraction known as “The Thing”. Directed by Rhys Ernst, “The Thing” has its international premiere at Sundance 2012.

Hey everyone! My friend Rhys got his reworked MFA film into Sundance, and I’m helping him spread the word. You may remember the casting call last year which made the rounds on Tumblr and was featured on the Original Plumbing blog when the film’s tentative title was “Tristan and Zooey.”

Check out the current “The Thing” Kickstarter fundraiser to help him finish the film up and travel to Sundance. He needs less than $1,000 by Thursday, so help him and his team out by contributing if you can, reblogging, and spreading the word other ways!

For more info visit thethingfilm.blogspot.com and follow on Twitter @thethingfilm

Call for auditions for all-FTM collab channel (EXTENDED)!

Hey there! We are an inclusive, diverse, queer-friendly all-FTM collab channel on YouTube called “FTM Television”.
We’ve been up and running since May, but we have a lot of empty spots now (because people left, and we put off holding auditions for way too long), so we are now looking for at least 7 new weekly members for the channel, as well as some subs..
We opened auditions on December 4th, and the original deadline was December 17th.. but since we have not received enough audition videos (we currently have 12, but we need at least 20), we’ve extended the deadline.
Pretty much until enough people have sent in videos, so there’s no set date. The sooner the better, though!

We’ll announce when auditions are closed, on our channel, our Facebook page, and our Tumblr.

Watch the call for auditions video above, and if you want to be a part of the channel, go make an audition video while there’s still time!
You can be from anywhere in the world (this isn’t just open to guys in Canada or the United States), there’s NO age limit, you don’t have to be at any specific point in your transition, and we LOVE diversity. Femme guys, masculine guys, queer guys, straight guys, guys of color, you name it.. we welcome it!
So what are you waiting for? Go audition!! ;)

To submit a video response, first make sure you’re watching this video on the youtube page, not on tumblr, then click on the “comment” box under this video, and you’ll find the “create a video response” link. Click on that, and you should be able to submit a video response pretty easily.

Good luck, and we can’t wait to watch your videos!

Go to the video link on YouTube
Our YouTube channel
Our Facebook fanpage
Our Tumblr

Charlie comforting Tom in KhaosKomix

Charlie comforting Tom in KhaosKomix

I was fired from my job today for being transgender.

Hey fellas. Usually when I post here I’m in a relatively good mood, but today was rough.

It was the 2nd day of a new job, I informed management in beginning of Day 1 of my preferred name and pronouns and that I’m trans. It went really well and my supervisor was quite supportive.

Apparently my supervisor and coworkers were fine with it, but the HR representative, who I never even got to meet, was not.

They first had the person from my staffing agency contact me (instead of speaking to me personally) requesting that I not use the correct bathroom, because I might make people uncomfortable. When I asked him to please find out if there was a unisex bathroom in the building I could use (as I did not want to go to HR/my supervisor myself and make it a big deal) they informed him (and thus he informed me) that there is no unisex bathroom available and that I was no longer a good fit for the company.

When I contested that there was no issue, I would suck it up and use the wrong bathroom, they changed their tune to say that they didn’t interview “Aaron”, they interviewed “(legal name)”, and that I was “obviously” not the person I claimed to be.

What really disgusts me is that at 5:00pm, before I left, my supervisor was telling me how great I was doing, that I seemed like a really great fit and did so well with training, set me up my own desk and computer and told me when I came in tomorrow, I’d be on my own. At 5:40pm it was confirmed that they were not willing to work anything out, my “situation” made me an ill fit for the company, and they had already lined up someone else for my job.

It makes no difference that my skills, experience, and qualifications were the same, regardless of preferred name/pronouns. If I had requested to be called by a preferred traditionally feminine name, like say, a shortened version of my legal name or my middle name, I would still have my job.

There are no laws in the state of florida (or most other states) to protect transgender people from being terminated based on gender identity or expression. It was perfectly legal for them to fire me based solely on my trans* status.

For more information, please read the wikipedia article on the federal Employment Non-Discrimination Act, and get involved in helping to fight for its passing.

You can also sign this petition to tell local lawmakers to support ENDA.

If you’d like to help me personally, I have a merch shop on my page where I’ve been selling trans* pride stuff to help raise money for my transition, but those funds will now have to go to my family’s living expenses. Check it out and spread the word.

Mostly I just want it to be known that this happens, all the time, to real people with names and feelings and families who must suffer. Our rights movement is not an abstract idea, it affects the lives of human beings every day.

How Misogyny Hurts Trans Men, or We Do Sometimes Have Male Privilege But There Are More Important Things To Talk About Here

supermattachine:

TW: Transphobia, cissexism, misogyny, sizeism, erasure, descriptions of dysphoria.

I am wary of the uncritical acceptance of the idea that trans men have male privilege.  I’ve seen with my own eyes the way some trans men can benefit sometimes from male privilege, but they have it in a conditional way.  Quite the opposite, I’ve seen far more ways trans men are actively harmed by misogyny.  I think the question of how trans men can recognize and check their male privilege is not as interesting or as urgent as the question of how trans men are harmed by the male privilege and misogyny displayed by cis men.  I’ve made a little itemized list of ways misogyny affects us harmfully.  I like lists, they’re neat and pretty.

1) For many trans men, male privilege is the privilege to be silent.  It is the privilege to make oneself invisible.  Some trans men wish to live “stealth.”  I don’t.  The idea of being stealth is unpleasant to me.  I have no desire to silence something that is, for me vital and authentic to my voice and life experience.  There may be privilege involved in a stealth trans male life, but it is a privilege problematized by a culture of silence and fear.  I’m sure I don’t need to remind anyone of the danger stealth trans people can encounter if they are outed, often greater danger than the danger encountered by out trans people, because of the narrative of the deceitful trans person.  Male privilege for stealth trans men is a privilege that comes at the cost of a past, usually a childhood, and often a present that has features unacceptable to the patriarchal structures that produce male privilege.

2) One of the most pervasive cissexist tactics of denying trans men’s genders is by suggesting that we are women attempting to escape the necessarily inferior condition of womanhood.  Transfeminist Julia Serano has argued that the historic invisibility of trans men is because of this attitude.  It makes sense that women want to be men—who wouldn’t want to be a man—but of course they can’t be allowed to be.  On the other hand, a man who wants to be a woman is absurd, freakish, and worth attention.  All this functions on the assumption that womanhood is an inferior state.

Some critiques, however, come disguised as feminist thought.  I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard variations on the theme of, “Well, of course you want to be a man!  Men have male privilege!” and other charming iterations of the idea that sexism is the etiology of my gender.  Interestingly, and rather unsurprisingly, in my experience, this usually comes from cis male pseudo-feminists who were insisting on my lack of ability to understand how my gender exists in a critical and politically minded way.  It also presupposes that a woman would, in the face of patriarchy, be more inclined to switch genders instead of fighting for equality, which makes all kinds of assumptions about a woman’s strength, integrity, and readiness for battle.  (All of which are traits which patriarchy attempts to reserve for men.)

3) Trans men are affected by patriarchal negligence of and interference with women’s health (the anti-choice movement, etc).  The anti-choice effort to deny FAAB people rights over their own bodies extends to trans men.  There are trans men whose sex lives involve pregnancy risk.  There are trans men who need birth control.  There are trans men who want to give birth and may be at risk for forced sterilization (especially if they are of color), or who want to choose to give birth how and where they feel comfortable.  There are trans men who need access to abortion services.  The patriarchal effort to deny FAAB people adequate health care and to ignore or erase their health needs affects trans men just as much as it does women.

Trans men often have a particular experience of anti-choice thinking if they need to take testosterone.  Because taking testosterone renders a trans man (at least temporarily and sometimes permanently) infertile, trans men are frequently told that they will regret not being able to have children.  The regret they are told they will feel is held up as an example of why taking testosterone is an unnatural act.  

The (cis)sexist logic goes like this: “It is natural for a female-assigned person to want to become pregnant and have children, as they are by default a woman and reproduction is one of the purposes of women.  Taking testosterone is obviously unnatural because bodies should only display the characteristics of their assigned genders, but this FAAB person does not see that.  If I explain to this FAAB person that if they take testosterone they will inevitably be unable to have children and fulfill their true purpose in life, which they will regret, it will prove to them that taking testosterone is fundamentally an unnatural act.”

It’s all part of the barefoot and pregnant paradigm.  Pregnancy as indispensable part of being a female-assigned person.  The idea that female-assigned people have the responsibility to allow themselves to be impregnated.

To attempt to deny a trans man access to hormones, or to police his decision to take hormones, because he “might want to have children someday” is no less a restriction of his reproductive freedom as a female-assigned person than it is to disallow cis women from obtaining abortions, birth control, or sterilization.

4) Trans men are held up as an example of the hysterical woman.  I experienced this firsthand at an intense level, having come out at fourteen, a time when one’s feelings tend to be pathologized partly because of the drama with which they’re expressed and partly because of unfair double standards based on weird cultural constructs about what adolescence is.  Most of my feelings of depression or distress were seen as hysterical, in the fine old tradition of women as unreasonable and unable to understand their feelings or express them rationally.  

Once I came out and explicitly expressed my dysphoria, another level of pathologization was added—the one present in discourses that pathologize trans people and lives, considering their genders to be mental illnesses in and of themselves.

There is an unexplored commonality between the oppression of women (cis or trans) and of female-assigned trans people.  Both are pathologized for their genders and/or considered untrustworthy on the subject of what their gender is and what it means to have that gender. 

When trans men come out, they are often met with the belief that they, as crazy hysterical women, are not capable of self-knowledge.  ”It’s just a phase,” “You’ll get over this,” “You’re doing this to hurt me.” etc.  They are understood to be incapable of knowing themselves well enough to make a statement as drastic as “My gender is not the one assigned to me at birth.”

5) Trans men are understood as failed women, failed by virtue of inability to attract a man or inadequate femininity (usually both, with the latter understood as the cause of the former).  In the movie version of the TV show “Family Guy,” there is a perfect example of this.  Many jokes in the show revolve around the ugliness and inability to attract a boyfriend of Meg, the daughter.  In the movie, Meg is revealed to eventually come out as male.  It is presented as a direct result of her ugliness and failure to attract a heterosexual man.

This misogynistic viewpoint states that trans men are simply women who were unable to act as “real” women do:  not pretty enough, not sexy or obedient or virginal enough, in short not able or willing to conform to the plethora of often contradictory demands patriarchy makes of women and female-assigned people.  These failed women, unable to satisfy heterosexual men romantically or sexually, and unable to adhere to patriarchal demands on a larger scale, must therefore become men.

Of course, these failed women-now-men can’t be allowed to be true men!  They have vaginas and breasts, or they used to if they’ve had procedures that changed that, and everyone knows vaginas only go on women, who are of course crazy.  In the end, the trans man becomes a failed woman who must become a man but cannot truly be a man.  The demands placed on him by patriarchal logics directly contradict one another.

The whole operation ultimately degenders trans men, positioning them not as men and not as women (and not in a liberating, breaking the binary way).   They are positioned as gender failures, not competent for either maleness or femaleness, a total Other.

6) The male gaze is used against trans men.  This is not to say that trans men are incapable of using and benefitting from the male gaze, but that cis men use the male gaze to dehumanize and objectify trans men.

Trans women are obviously vulnerable to the male gaze because of their gender, but trans men’s relationship to it is more complicated.  If trans men are not blending absolutely one hundred percent, it is considered acceptable for cis men to examine trans men and attempt to determine what gender they “really” are.  They are something to be examined, critiqued, and made valid or invalid by the cis man’s decision because of the possibility that they are a woman.

The male gaze empowers cis men to decide whether trans men are adequately trans.  That is to say, a cis man can look upon an unbound or femininely presenting transgender man, declare that his gender presentation is not that of a “real” trans person, and thus consider his gender invalid.

The male gaze used against trans men does not differ much in practice from the male gaze used against women: it focuses on secondary sex characteristics, it assumes that a gaze that lingers too long and too invasively or impolitely is acceptable.

All this plays into the male gaze’s function within the larger patriarchal project.  After all, the reason that trans men must be examined this way is so it can be determined who the “real men” are on whom male privilege should be conferred.  If trans men do gain male privilege, they must first pass the test of the male gaze, which will probably determine that they are “really a woman,” neither male nor female but entirely Other, or inadequate as a trans man and thus not “male enough.”

7) Misogynistic concepts of the FAAB body are used to police trans male bodies, a problem exacerbated by dysphoria.  Or a problem that exacerbates dysphoria, depending on how you look at it.  In either case, because of dysphoria, a classic misogynistic chestnut like “Vaginas are gross!” or “Menstruation makes me want to throw up” can ring true for a trans man on a personal level, w/r/t his own genitals or his own experience of menstruation.  

It’s very easy for trans men to internalize these ideas not just as things true for them because of dysphoria, but of all FAAB bodies, ie. that not only their vaginas are disgusting, but that all vaginas are—and that, of course, can lead to them saying and doing sexist things, but it’s a kind of sexist behavior that has to be problematized.  It’s much more akin to a woman talking about how much she hates her pubic hair than it is to a man talking about how all women should shave their genitals because pubic hair is gross.  

All this fosters the same toxic culture of body denigration and competition that preys on women.

The intersection of cissexism and misogyny places trans male bodies in a double bind, that of being declared disgusting and invalid both because they have bodies that are FAAB, and because those bodies are trans FAAB bodies.

I believe there is something to be said here about sizeism and the policing of what and how FAAB people eat and how big FAAB people are allowed to be, but that isn’t an area I’m particularly educated in.  I know that this is something Eli and Mitch know about—do you guys have any thoughts?  All I’ve decided at this point is that a fat trans man is far more likely than a fat cis man to be declared loathsome, which can and often does lead to the designation of a fat trans man as a failed ugly woman as I discussed earlier.

Now, that’s the conclusion of my list.  As I’ve said, I’ve seen trans men benefit from male privilege, but I think the ways that we’re harmed by misogyny are much greater.  I hope this goes a little ways toward explaining why.

Just because I’m in a dress doesn’t mean I want to be called by female pronouns. I’m a boy, and therefor this is a boy’s god damn dress.

(Source: ennvui)

Father’s reaction to his son’s transition from Transgeneration. Very touching! Keep watching, it ends up positive!

artoftransliness:

obsidionalis:

“When are you going to go on testosterone?”
“I don’t think I will.”
“Oh.”
——————————-
“I’ve been on it about two years. So, how far are you on T?”
“I’m not on testosterone.  I don’t think I will.”
“…Are you sure you’re trans? haha”
As a transgendered male, I often feel a lot of pressure in the queer and trans community regarding physical transitions.  I experience it at work, at social events- you know, pretty much everywhere. There exists some sort of idea that all transgendered people must physically transition in order for said transperson to feel they can own their identity.
 At least, I have felt this. On occasion, I have been measured by other transmen for my decision to not take testosterone. I have had people refuse to call me by my rightful pronouns on account of this. Some of these people being transgendered themselves.
Because you know, the transgender identity (and otherwise), is defined by physical details of the body, and most definitely not by gender expression!
I understand the need some transmen have for physical transitions. I understand the need for T, and top or bottom surgery. I know what it’s like to not be alright with my body. 
I am just tired of being overlooked, and shutdown, especially by my own community over this. I feel I should be grateful for having a supportive community, but sometimes there are people who just fucking suck.
The photo above is a photo of what a transgendered man looks like.  One of many men.
-A.A.K.
ps. most inarticulate rant.

A lot of pressure in the trans* community comes from people taking what made them happy and what worked for them and forcing it on other people. The decision to take testosterone (or not) is intensely personal, as is someone’s own gender identity. It is not up for us to decide for other people what is right for them, or to evaluate their identities. There are multiple reasons why someone would opt to not take testosterone and/or have surgery. We should respect this and not demand an explanation or alienate them from the community. We’re all in this together!

artoftransliness:

obsidionalis:

“When are you going to go on testosterone?”

“I don’t think I will.”

“Oh.”

——————————-

“I’ve been on it about two years. So, how far are you on T?”

“I’m not on testosterone.  I don’t think I will.”

“…Are you sure you’re trans? haha”

As a transgendered male, I often feel a lot of pressure in the queer and trans community regarding physical transitions.  I experience it at work, at social events- you know, pretty much everywhere. There exists some sort of idea that all transgendered people must physically transition in order for said transperson to feel they can own their identity.

 At least, I have felt this. On occasion, I have been measured by other transmen for my decision to not take testosterone. I have had people refuse to call me by my rightful pronouns on account of this. Some of these people being transgendered themselves.

Because you know, the transgender identity (and otherwise), is defined by physical details of the body, and most definitely not by gender expression!

I understand the need some transmen have for physical transitions. I understand the need for T, and top or bottom surgery. I know what it’s like to not be alright with my body. 

I am just tired of being overlooked, and shutdown, especially by my own community over this. I feel I should be grateful for having a supportive community, but sometimes there are people who just fucking suck.

The photo above is a photo of what a transgendered man looks like.  One of many men.

-A.A.K.

ps. most inarticulate rant.

A lot of pressure in the trans* community comes from people taking what made them happy and what worked for them and forcing it on other people. The decision to take testosterone (or not) is intensely personal, as is someone’s own gender identity. It is not up for us to decide for other people what is right for them, or to evaluate their identities. There are multiple reasons why someone would opt to not take testosterone and/or have surgery. We should respect this and not demand an explanation or alienate them from the community. We’re all in this together!

Hey guys,

It’s Aaron again. I have submitted before. This is my early muscle Monday pic. I’m pre-T, pre-op, and pre accepting family. :| I don’t have a proper binder yet, but I made one out of an old pair of bike pants and it seems to work alright… I want a real binder soon though… just dunno how to go about getting one since my family is against my transition… I’m from near(ish) Sydney, Australia!

Follow me! I’ll follow back! (Click the photo)

Hey guys,

It’s Aaron again. I have submitted before. This is my early muscle Monday pic. I’m pre-T, pre-op, and pre accepting family. :| I don’t have a proper binder yet, but I made one out of an old pair of bike pants and it seems to work alright… I want a real binder soon though… just dunno how to go about getting one since my family is against my transition… I’m from near(ish) Sydney, Australia!

Follow me! I’ll follow back! (Click the photo)

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